Sometimes I get down, when I realize I have no one here. It can be very lonely.  All of my friends live elsewhere. My three best friends, each live in different states, scattered over the US. There are days where I’d give just about anything to be able to go have coffee with them at their houses. To sit and talk. To go to dinner. Something. Anything. There are days when it makes me feel bad to know that without the Internet, I’d have no friends and social life.

Other times I realize how absolutely lucky I really am. I have the greatest friends in the world. People all over the US who I am lucky enough to call true friends. People I can chat with, text with and email with. People I could call if I needed someone to talk too. People who would open up their home to me for a few days, if I was in their area. People who take me, as me; just as I am. You can’t beat that type of friendship. I count myself blessed every day that I have it.

I spent a long weekend in California. A long amazing weekend. It wasn’t amazing because I did extraordinary things. I was just there. I spent time with friends. I played Angry Birds Halloween. I watched my friends son, when she ended up having to take her daughter to urgent care. I got sick on my last night there. Life you know? Just normal life.

It’s the small things though, the small moments that help me stay positive when I am home. The small moments that I can pull out and look at in my head later, on days when I need them. These are the things that remind me that I’m not alone.

Things like spending a few hours sitting on a couch, talking and laughing about the idiocy of sports figures. *cough* Brett Farve *cough* Making fun of a certain pitcher who has now famous facial hair. Joking about his weirdness. Reminding ourselves and each other that just because they do one thing so well that we all know who they are, doesn’t really make them anything other than human beings, who just happen to be famous.

Things like spending a day running errands with my best friend. Do I care that we went grocery shopping? Nope. We did other things too. But I don’t care that we did the normal things that all of us have to do every week. Doesn’t matter. I spent a day with my best friend. That’s all that matters.

An afternoon spent with this amazing woman, who drove a total of 18 hours this weekend, with her three children, to spend a few hours with friends. Priceless she said in her post and I have to say, I fully agree. At the end of the afternoon, we both stood there, continuing to talk, not wanting to leave the mall, even though the reality was, we were both going home to change, to then have dinner together. But she knows, as well as I do, how precious these minutes can be.

Dinner at a cozy restaurant with four friends. A conversation that covered a little bit of everything. Simple, easy, fun. Trying to hug people enough times until we meet again.

A day spent talking with friends, about sleep training, how fast the newborn phase goes and laughing about the most coveted baby toy on the market sounding exactly like a dog toy. Nom’ing on tiny baby cheeks.

Playing swords with two crazy little kids one night. Watching him play soccer a few times. Laughing as she does crazy things, such as eating an entire spoonful of butter at brunch, instead of her muffin. Knowing that I adore these kids as much as I could possibly adore kids that aren’t mine.

Was I sad to go home yesterday, yes. I always am. However, I’ve gotten better about it. I know now, there will be a next time. I’ve proved that to myself. These are my people, there will always be a next time.

I drink these moments up. Soak them into me, as deep as they’ll go. All the way to the bones in my toes. I hold onto them, knowing that it will be awhile before the next time. It’s not the same, as if I lived close to all these people, but it’s still great. I’ll take it when I can get it and know, that they are all here for me, even when it’s just over this crazy Internet world.

26 Responses to It’s the little moments

  • My best friends are scattered across the U.S. too and you better believe I would drive 18 hours just to see them. I haven’t seen my BFF from college in years since we live on different coasts and some days I just want to be back in college going shopping and making perogies for dinner like we used too. I’m fortunate to have another BFF who lives near me and I know I take that for granted.

    I’ve been feeling a little down and depressed this morning so thank you for reminding me how much I do have.

    Issa Reply:

    @Carolyn (temysmom), I’m sorry honey. I know how hard it can be to have everyone live elsewhere. Hugs.

  • becky says:

    I can so relate to this. I have some friends here but some are left back in Ohio and MOST are online and all over the states…even in Canada. It makes life exciting though to see them and since we don’t see them all the time it’s extra special. When we went to Jennster’s a couple mos ago most the time was spent just hanging out like y’all did. Shop. Eat. Drink. Dance a little. It was fun to just do normal things but at someone else’s house. I”m glad you had a good time :)
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    Issa Reply:

    @becky, It is exciting and special to go and see them. I constantly have to remind myself that if I lived near them, I’d not see them all the time either. ya know?

    Then again, I’d take more…more…more. if I could. Ha.

  • It sounds like a fabulous weekend. I only wish I lived closer so that we could have coffee and laugh.

    Most of my friends are online and it is so hard to be so close yet so far away from those who truly get me.

    i am thankful to call you one of those people. I know I can text you when I need you and you will always be there.

    Much love.
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    Issa Reply:

    @Domestic Extraordinaire, Me too friend. I wish you lived closer too. In fact? I’d like a commune. Ha. With everyone I love, living on it. What? A girl can dream, right?

  • avasmommy says:

    All I know is how much harder life would be without you and Liz and Lu in it. While I wish you guys were 50 feet away, instead of hundreds of miles, I’d rather have you all this way than not at all.

    Love you babe.
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    Issa Reply:

    @avasmommy, Agreed. 100%.

    Every day, I would rather have you three a million miles away than not at all.

  • Lu says:

    I am so super duper glad that you got to go have a good time this weekend. Of course next time I respectfully ask that you choose the East coast. Heehee. Love you friend, feel better.
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    Issa Reply:

    @Lu, Will see to that one as soon as I can friend. No worries. I am travel Issa. ;)

  • Lesley says:

    “Soak them into me, as deep as they’ll go. All the way to the bones in my toes.” I loved these lines. :)

    Issa Reply:

    @Lesley, Thank you Leslie. :)

  • laura says:

    I am so glad that you got a chance to get away and just be. Sure do miss you! Hugs and btw, love the new design!

    Issa Reply:

    @laura, I am too. I am so glad I got to go. It helps tremendously. :)

  • Allyson says:

    Sounds fabulous.
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    Issa Reply:

    @Allyson, It was friend. I wish you could have been there.

    No worries though. I will be coming out your way next summer. FOR SURE!!!

  • Jillcom says:

    Lady – I would have driven even further to spend time with you. I truly believe in karma and that people come into our lives for a reason. I think we were meant to meet. I think we were meant to become friends. I know that I’m already counting down the days until you come back to CA, so I can hang out again … though next time I’m NOT going home to change. I don’t want to miss any extra moments with you.

    So glad you were able to get away for the weekend and hang with your BFF. It’s so important refresh, regroup, and rejoice in the wonders of friendship.

    Love to you lady!!!

    Issa Reply:

    @Jillcom, LOL!!!!! I so didn’t want to let you go and change. But ya know, the baby and all that. ;)

    I am so glad we were able to do this. It helps. It helps me on bad days remember that I do have people out there. That I’m not alone.

  • Jill says:

    btw – that’s me. my computer is doing weird things today. :)
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    Issa Reply:

    @Jill, I know, I thought that was funny. But also? Am hoping maybe April….for my next visit. We will see.

  • mosey says:

    I get what amounts to homesick very frequently when I think of my scattered friends (and family), so I get it.

    But making new friends ROCKS. And. I love being “four” in your post, and “4″ on Jill’s. Did you two plan that? ;)
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    Issa Reply:

    @mosey, We didn’t. I thought it was funny though. :)

    ps. I adore the photos. Thank you so much for doing that.

  • Dinwizzle says:

    Last summer when my BFF from college got married I realized how much I missed my east coast friends/family. I’ve been in CO for almost a decade now and I really didn’t think it bothered me. I have amazing friends here! And then when I posted on FB the other day that I had gotten my NY tix for Christmas there was an overwhelming surge of, “when will we see you” comments from people from her wedding. It maybe broke my heart a smidge and encouraged me to look at jobs closer to them.

    Issa Reply:

    @Dinwizzle, I am such a California girl. I will one day end up back there. It’s my home.

  • anymommy says:

    So glad that you had so much fun. These things can renew the soul.
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    Issa Reply:

    @anymommy, They do, each time. I just wish the times, weren’t so few and far between. I hope you had a great time on your trip away too.

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